A person who is more connected to their core identity, who is fulfilled, and has a strong sense of self, usually not suffer from major weight issues, and if needed, could lose excess weight more easily (given there are no physical or genetic issues). Additionally, when a person reaches this state of being, a few pounds over or under weight, do not seem to matter. These become a non-issue because the person feels fulfilled and happy just the way they are. They do not depend on external things (such as cloths, a car, a house, etc.), to make them feel happy or whole. They may be a nice for them to have such sort of things, but they will not have major effect on their emotional being. The next question is then, how does one get to this connected state of being?
Today we are more aware that our body, brain, and emotions are all connected and work in synchronicity. According to Dr. Candace Pert emotions are stored in the body, at the receptors, and healthy communication, via emotional expression, is key to integrating the mind and the body.
Dr. Pert claimed that “the chemicals that are running our body and our brain are the same chemicals that are involved in emotion. And that says to me that we had better pay more attention to emotions with respect to health.” In her opinion, both psychologists and physicians should be making the body-mind connection, because the body and mind are not separate, and thus should not be treated without the other.
Since our traumatic and painful memories reside in our nerve system and the subconscious mind, the body and brain are trying to prevent the pain, by securing pleasure. The problem is that food may make us happy for a short while (as sugar goes straight to the brain making it feel pleasure), and it gets us addicted to the “high” feeling it provides. Yet soon after we feel physically and emotionally bad, guilty for “failing” again, self-judging ourselves, which makes us feel unhappy. This is a vicious cycle that is hard to brake.
It is not surprising then that a CNN article reported that millions of people are simply ‘giving up’ on trying to lose weight because they have had enough of living in judgement, feeling like a failure, and being hard on themselves for not reaching their goals over and over again.
While some people give up on losing weight and living a healthy life completely, others are shifting their mental focus to how they feel and to how healthy they are which makes losing weight less hard.
When people deal with and express their emotions, and are listening and are more aware of what is going on in their physical and emotional body, it is easier for them to deal with the true issue at hand, instead of trying to “cover it up” with emotional eating. Yet, when people do not deal with their feelings, they are more exposed to gaining weight and eat unhealthy because whenever they encounter an unpleasant emotion their body feels “exposed to hurt”. In order to lower the risk of getting hurt, they eat, usually sugar, the instant satisfier, and carbs, which turn quickly into sugar, both providing a short term emotional pacifier.
On the other hand, when people are more connected to their feelings, emotions, and mental being, food no longer controls them, and they do not try to control it. With time, as we work on our emotional issues and experiences, we feel more secure, confident, and aware. And when a need for something sweet arises, a row of dark chocolate would usually suffice. The craving subdues with time and rarely will we have a need for comfort food. When people get a Biometric hand Analysis, I often suggest that if they feels they cannot go through such a process alone, to seek professional help, someone they connect with, who will help them dig deeper, to see what part is hurting and needs acknowledgment, taking care of, and dealing with.
Be present and bring awareness into your life, deal with past and present feelings and difficult emotions, turn to help when you feel the need, and take care of your physical, emotional, and mental states, as they are key to a better and healthier life with higher self-esteem. And though you may not constantly be in a state of happiness (as we all get sad, angry, annoyed, etc., at times), when you take care of your emotional, mental and physical states, it is possible to reach a healthier, happier and more content state of being most of the time.